Weekly Reading: 17 July 2017 thru 23 July 2017

I’m really sorry the reading is so late this week. I haven’t been feeling well since before last weekend, and this is the first time I’ve been able to focus well enough to figure out what the cards are saying.

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.

(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card” – a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

Note: The combined energies and messages of all the cards in the reading are active for the full week, with the energy of the card drawn for specific days being more dominant on those particular days.

The first thing that jumps out at me this week is how much focus there is on the Divine Feminine. Every card is filled with feminine energy, and is focused on traits/behaviors that are seen as feminine; like nurturing, guidance, balance, maternal protectiveness, compassionate justice, comfort, growth, cooperation, and harmony. Last week’s energies surfaced a lot of uncomfortable feelings, attitudes, and memories for us to face and deal with; this week we’re offered the support and nurturing we need to accept and integrate those parts of ourselves that we see as “not okay” or unacceptable in some way.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Monday/Tuesday: Ariadne (Transformation)

With last week’s full moon dragging up so much of our shadow to be faced, there are still bits and pieces hanging about to be dealt with. Ariadne offers us a ball of yarn guide us back out of the labyrinth once we’ve faced our personal Minotaur(s) and completed our transformational work. Her confidence that we will need to find our way back reassures us that we CAN do what is necessary and defeat the Minotaur lurking at the center of the labyrinth.






Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: Ma’at (Balance)

Ma’at advises us to allow the energies to flow through and show us our truth. She reminds us to restrain our impulsiveness, to not let it cause us to do something we might regret later; and Sekhmet tells us that a cautious, deliberate approach will help us to maintain our balance and harmonize even the most seemingly opposite feelings and emotions.







Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Friday/Saturday/Sunday: Four of Scrolls (Recollection)

The dreaming fairy in the Four of Scrolls reminds us that much of the work of integrating new information and memories is done when we rest and take time for ourselves. The scrolls surrounding her as she sleeps contain records of dreams and comforting memories to be brought back into our awareness.








The Divine Feminine

Divine Feminine: What is the Sacred Feminine?

Weekly Reading: 10 July 2017 thru 16 July 2017

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.

(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card” – a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

Note: The combined energies and messages of all the cards in the reading are active for the full week, with the energy of the card drawn for specific days being more dominant on those particular days.

The energy of this week feels very intense, and the cards are very strongly reinforcing the message of Sunday’s full moon in Capricorn. (For more info on the full moon energies, see FULL MOON in Capricorn July 8th / 9th 2017~) As the current planetary positions shift, these energies will moderate and ease up, but they will continue to be active until the New Moon on July 23rd. For those who are having natal planets and points activated by the current planetary configurations, it could turn out to be a wild ride (especially if they try to resist dealing with the issues being brought to the surface;) but the intensity will affect all of us to one degree or another.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra


Monday/Tuesday: Papa Legba (Inner Strength)

Papa Legba comes in to remind us that no matter how uncomfortable the transformational energies of this week are, we have the self-control and inner strength to navigate them successfully.







Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: Lovers (Unity and Oneness)

Although The Lovers frequently means things like the beginning of a new relationship or a relationship moving to the next level; this card also highlights the need to reconcile conflicting values and beliefs. This week it is more about the tensions that this full moon is causing in existing relationships, and the internal conflicts that are being brought to the surface to be worked on. Whether affected relationships are social, friendships, work, or romantic; the energies of this full moon will be bringing any discord or suppressed irritations to the surface to be dealt with. The Lovers tells us it’s very important to bring in our love and compassion while reconciling these issues, or the irritable energy of this full moon could cause a permanent break in some of them.




Card Images: Copyright Holly Sierra

Friday/Saturday/Sunday: Five of Spirals/Two of Scrolls (Shadow/Fantasy)

The “dragons” of the Five of Spirals lurk in your subconscious and are now rising to the surface, bringing forward the internal conflicts and struggles that need to be resolved for you to move forward. As scary and uncomfortable as this can be, remember that resisting or trying to escape the need to deal with them simply pushes them back down to show up again later. Use the power of The Two of Scrolls to help resolve these issues – the winged unicorn points out that sometimes logic and practicality need to be ignored in favor of the intuitive insights that seem to make no sense on the surface. Trust your instincts and the messages you receive, even if they seem fantastic at first glance.

Weekly Reading: 3 July 2017 thru 9 July 2017

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.

(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card” – a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

The energy of this week feels very peaceful and reflective. The beginning of the week is a finishing up of the work we were doing last week, and the middle and end of the week bring in our rewards for a job well done. The idea that this week’s energies are very much a continuation of our work from last week is reinforced by the fact that both the Four of Mirrors and the Six of Stones also appeared in last week’s reading, even though I’ve done several readings with this deck in between.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra


Monday/Tuesday: Seven of Stones (Regret)

Last week’s healing work has left a vague residue of regret connected to some of the things we’ve done, or left undone, in the past. The Seven of Stones is a reminder that we can’t go back and change the past, and the final stage of healing is releasing those regrets and moving on with our lives. Meditation can help with that process, allowing us to determine if there is anything we can do now to make amends, and allowing us to come to terms with what can’t be changed.





Card Images: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: Four of Mirrors/Ten of Mirrors (Detachment/Peace)

This combination of cards says that detaching from our need to make ourselves suffer through hanging on to guilt and regret is the path to the peace and contentment offered by the Ten of Mirrors, one of the most positive cards in the Chrysalis Tarot. Sit back, relax, and allow the mirrors to reflect the things you want into your life, and remember, if you don’t like the reflection you see, shift the angle of the mirror so that it reflects something you like better.




Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra


Friday/Saturday/Sunday: Six of Stones (Caritas)

The keyword for the Six of Stones is “caritas,” which is defined as “love for all.” In this particular case, the feeling is that it is meant as an “unconditional love for all beings,” including yourself. Spend some time this weekend taking care of yourself – a little pampering can go a long way towards bringing you back into physical and emotional balance.

Weekly Reading: 26 June 2017 thru 2 July 2017

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.
(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card” – a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

This week’s reading is very much about self-examination, self-awareness, and healing; and the energies of the week feel very reflective and quiet. Bracketed by two cards about different kinds of detachment, the central cards about love and healing promise that any internal work we do will be productive.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Monday/Tuesday: Four of Mirrors (Detachment)

The emotional detachment symbolized by the Four of Mirrors can be either healthy or unhealthy, depending on the circumstances, and this card suggests a need to take a look at where and why you’re emotionally detached. Are you using emotional detachment in a healthy and empowering way, to step away from unhealthy relationships, to maintain your boundaries, or to protect yourself from absorbing the negative energies of people around you? Or are you using emotional detachment to avoid pain and fear and/or keep from having to make difficult decisions or have difficult conversations? This kind of emotional isolation causes more problems than it solves, since avoiding the difficult and painful issues in our lives and relationships doesn’t make them go away, it only prevents us from being able to resolve them and pushes away the people we love.




Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: Six of Stones/Eight of Mirrors (Caritas/Selfless)

The keyword for the Six of Stones is “caritas,” which is defined as “love for all.” In this particular case, the feeling is that it is meant as an “unconditional love for all beings,” including yourself. Celtic Vates (or Ovates) were prophets, seers, healers, and diviners. On the Eight of Mirrors he suggests the inner journey to self-awareness and healing – combined with the Six of Stones there is a sense of that self-awareness and healing leading to an enhanced ability to love unconditionally.




Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Friday/Saturday/Sunday: Bella Rosa (Detachment)

Bella Rosa presents us with another form of detachment, one that is less about emotional disconnection and more about letting go of our attachment to the masks we hide our real selves behind. These masks are not only the pretenses we use to hide the parts of ourselves we find “unacceptable,” but also the material belongings we hide behind to make ourselves seem “just like everyone else” and to make ourselves “fit in” with the crowd. She (or he) is about self-acceptance, and the courage to be our authentic selves. The red rose she carries is symbolic of unconditional love, courage and respect; and suggests not only the courage to be our authentic, flawed selves, but the courage to give ourselves the unconditional love and respect we deserve for the obstacles we’ve overcome.





What is an Ovate?
Rose symbolism

Weekly Reading: 19 June 2017 thru 25 June 2017

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.
(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card” – a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

With all Minor Arcana cards this week, the energies are much gentler and much less intense than last week. The middle of the week may be a bit emotional and tricky to navigate, but it’s not anything that can’t be dealt with, and the Ace of Stones as the final card says that we’ll do just fine.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Monday/Tuesday: Three of Stones (Planning)
The chamber beneath the tree of life beckons you to enter and seek not only your own inner wisdom, but the wisdom available to you through connection with the Collective Unconscious (or Universal Consciousness.) The triquetras on the upright stones assure you that you will be safe and protected while you seek additional information to refine your plans. Owls are symbolic of wisdom, discernment, and attention to detail; fire is symbolic of burning away the old to make room for the new (a forest fire can appear very destructive, but it burns away the dead wood, making room for new growth to begin;) while in tarot, cards containing the number three are symbolic of transformation. This combination suggests that the wisdom you find will help you to release/burn away those things that are no longer useful to you and make room for new plans and ideas to grow and transform your life.




Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: Six of Mirrors/Three of Mirrors (Memories/Compassion)
With two cards focused one feelings and emotion, the middle of the week could be a bit tricky to navigate. While remembering the past can remind you of the good times you’ve had or the lessons you’ve learned, you don’t want to get stuck there, or use those memories as an excuse not to move forward. The Six of Mirrors also carries ancestral energies, allowing you to access the wisdom and loving support of your ancestors in following through with your plans. The compassion and connection indicated by the Three of Mirrors can provide you with a path forward – compassion for yourself and others, connection to the past and your ancestors, and encouragement that you can succeed. This three is about celebrating and accepting not only the different aspects of yourself, but the differences in others as well.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Friday/Saturday/Sunday: Ace of Stones (Abundance)
This card is full of the promise of new beginnings and fresh possibilities. It’s the perfect culmination of the energies of the previous cards, indicating that with careful planning and the ability to be flexible and adapt those plans as necessary, you will reach the goals you’ve set for yourself.

Note: Last week a friend pointed out that reading the cards as a group that applies to the entire week, with the final card as both a part of the combined energies and a culmination of those energies, adds another layer of insight and more depth of meaning to the reading. Not only do I think she’s right about that, but in thinking about it this week, I’ve realized that if you think about it from the perspective of an astrological aspect it makes even more sense. In astrology, the energy of a planetary aspect (where two planets come into a defined relationship with each other) isn’t sudden, happening only when those planets are exactly positioned in that aspect and ending as soon as they begin moving away from each other. The energies begin building as the planets approach the aspect positions, reach their highest power when the aspect is exact, and then slowly dissipate as the planets move further away from that position. Seen from that perspective, not only would each card of the weekly reading have an influence throughout the week, but the energies of the first card would actually begin to be felt in the last couple of days of the previous week, and the energy of the final card would influence the beginning of the following week as well.


Owl symbolism https://www.spirit-animals.com/owl/
Parrot symbolism http://www.spirit-animals.com/parrot/
Lion symbolism https://www.spirit-animals.com/lion-symbolism/
Lamb symbolism http://www.sunsigns.org/sheep-animal-totem-symbolism-meanings/

Book Review: Adventures of the Soul by James Van Praagh

Adventures of the Soul: Journeys Through the Physical and Spiritual Dimensions

Author: James Van Praagh

Copyright: 2014,

Publisher: Hay House

Have you ever wondered what happens to us after our body stops? Have you wanted to talk to someone who has passed over, but thought it wasn’t possible? How about wondering if the loved ones who have gone ahead are okay, are happy; or felt like they were nearby and wondered if they really were? Are you afraid to die because you don’t know what happens afterward?

In Adventures of the Soul, experienced medium James Van Praagh offers answers to these questions based on his decades of experience being contacted by those who have passed on and reached out to those they left behind; as well as his personal “near death” experience. Unlike his previous books, which were based on readings he has given, in this book Mr. Van Praagh shares what he has learned from passed souls about what the “afterlife” is really like.

I was fascinated, and found “Adventures of the Soul” almost impossible to put down. It confirmed a great deal that I have “known” since my own near-death experience when I was around 10, and provided masses of additional information for me to think about and learn from. The guided meditations included at the end of the book have been quite helpful as well.

For those with an open mind, Adventures of the Soul offers comfort and reassurance that there is no reason to fear our transition, and that our loved ones haven’t ceased to exist. I highly recommend this book for anyone who is curious about what happens to us after we “die,” or who is grieving for a loved one.

As I will recount in this book, there are ways we can get glimpses of our true nature: through meditation, out-of-body experiences, and the accounts of near-death-experience survivors; by being regressed to past lives; and from information channeled via mediums. As a person who has been blessed with the ability to communicate with souls who have transitioned to the Spirit realms, I personally cannot deny the experiences I have had. If it wasn’t happening to me, I would be skeptical, too. ~James Van Praagh

Weekly Reading: 12 June 2017 thru 18 June 2017

This reading uses the Chrysalis Tarot by Toney Brooks and Holly Sierra.

(Process: I don’t “choose” the cards for these readings, I simply shuffle until I get a “jumper card”- a card that “jumps” out of the deck during the shuffle. I’ve found that this method provides the opportunity for the universe to choose the card(s) without interference from me. If more than 2 cards volunteer, they’re shuffled back into the deck until I get a maximum of 2 for the position I’m drawing for.)

With two Major Arcana cards bracketing the week, and two Troupe cards, we have a powerful week ahead. There will be many positive opportunities for change and improvement if we take appropriate action to move in that direction.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Monday/Tuesday: Golden Flower (Harmony and Meditation)
The first thing that popped into my head when I looked at this card is “genie in a bottle.” A lot of us have been feeling really lethargic, off balance, and stuck lately. Golden Flower says that the path out of that lethargy and back to harmony and balance is through meditation and connection with nature. Get out of the bed, out of the house, out of your cubicle. Take a walk among the trees, sit on a stone and meditate, go to the beach and watch the waves . . . get out of your head (the bottle) and connect with the world around you.






Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Wednesday/Thursday: The Healer/Six of Spirals (Youthful, Sensible/Success)
This pairing is amazingly perfect. The Healer is a “Bee Maiden.” She heals with honey, herbs, and the “magic” of nature and natural treatments. The image in the Six of Spirals is of a “clootie tree,” which are found near holy wells throughout Scotland and Ireland. (“Almost always characterised by strips of cloth or rags hanging from the branches of trees, clootie wells remain places of pilgrimage reputedly bestowed with magical healing properties. In Scotland and Ireland, pieces of cloth (clooties) are dipped in the holy well or spring and then tied to a branch. The offering is accompanied by a prayer to the spirit of the well – normally a saint, or a goddess or nature deity in pre-Christian times.” http://www.urbanghostsmedia.com/2011/03/rags-ditches-mysterious-celtic-clootie-wells/) The Healer suggests that changes in diet and lifestyle will aid in healing our “dis-eases,” whether they are physical, psychological, or emotional; and the Six of Spirals is a powerful reminder that without our belief that it is possible to heal, we are wasting our time. It also promises that with belief, and actions that support that belief, we can heal successfully.

Card Image: Copyright Holly Sierra

Friday/Saturday/Sunday: The Pilgrim/Phoenix (Perseverance, Endurance/Resolution)
The Pilgrim is a reminder that sometimes we need to walk away from the people or things in our lives that are no longer a good fit if we want to continue moving forward. Her pilgrimage may be internal, releasing old resentments and pains or seeking personal growth; or it may be external, walking away from relationships, jobs, or locations that aren’t good for her in some way. In either case, she has the perseverance and strength to do what needs to be done for her growth and protection. Who doesn’t know the legend of The Phoenix, rising from the ashes in triumph to live again? In this pairing, he provides reassurance that the difficulties of your pilgrimage will be rewarded by the resolution of whatever issues have triggered it, if you persevere.


Freeing Yourself From Pain: Letting Go of the Past and Moving On

original artwork copyright Holly Sierra

“The mental and physical space we create by letting go of things that belong in our past gives us . . . the option to fill the space with something new.” ~Susan Fay West

Have you ever felt “stuck” and had trouble letting go of something in your past that’s blocking you from moving forward in your life? For a lot of people, this happens when a relationship ends before you were ready; but that’s not the only time it can happen. Other types of losses can can cause you to get stuck as well – things like someone dying (especially if they were murdered or killed themselves,) getting diagnosed with a chronic illness, or a financial setback, or the loss of a job – in any situation where all you want is to go back to the way things were “before,” you’re stuck and blocked from moving forward.

Imagine that you’re standing in a long hallway that stretches off forever on both sides of you. To the left is your past, to the right is your future. Now try to go in both directions at once. Can you?

  • Look to your right, to your future – can you see what’s out there, or do you just see possibilities and branches you could take? You may think that all you see is more of what you have right now, which is something you don’t want; or you may only see possibilities that lead to something even “worse” than what “is” right now – in that case, you need to remember that there is no way to know for sure what’s around the next curve in the hallway, what’s at the end of that branch you can’t see down . . .What you think you see is only your imagination – the future hasn’t happened yet, there’s nothing out there to see except possibilities and probabilities, and all of those can be changed by what you do right now.
  • Now look back to the left, into your past. Look at what it is that you want to go back to. (Now take off those rose-colored glasses that make it look perfect, that hide all the flaws around it and REALLY look at it. Remember all the arguments, or the things your partner did that drove you crazy. Look at that “perfect” time before you got sick and remember some of the frustrations of having too much to do and never enough time to do it. Look at that time when you had plenty of money or that job that paid so well, and remember what you had to do to maintain that.) Still want to go back? You may, and that’s okay. Try it. Try to go back into the past, but don’t move too fast. You don’t want to hurt yourself when you slam into that transparent wall that lets you see what’s back there but prevents you from actually going that way.

You may need to repeat this exercise a few times to convince yourself that you can’t go back. Don’t worry about it if you do, it’s perfectly fine, and perfectly normal. It doesn’t mean you’re screwed up, it means you’re a normal human being.

Okay, so you aren’t happy where you are, and you can’t go back into your past where you were happy. So now what? Well, you have only two choices – you can stay where you are, stuck and miserable, staring at what doesn’t exist any more and wondering what the hell went wrong; or you can turn your back on the past and move forward into the possibility of being happy again.

Staying stuck is fairly easy – you just keep doing the same things you’re doing now. Sure, you aren’t happy with where you are, you aren’t comfortable, but you are used to it. It’s familiar, and familiar feels “safe” (safe as in not scary, not safe as in not bad for you.)

The other choice is harder because you have to change something, and it’s human nature to find the unknown scary and uncomfortable. The first step is simple, and doing the exercise above may have caused that to happen for you – it’s just accepting that you can’t go back to “before” and fix it, and deciding to stop trying. Step one is simple, but it’s not necessarily easy – it takes determination and work to break the habit of “thinking yourself miserable,” but you CAN do it.

Look at it this way: Would you watch a movie you hated over and over? If you did, could you change anything about the movie? Could you MAKE the characters say something different, or do something different? Could you change the ending to something else? Of course not. No matter how many times you watch a movie, you can’t change anything about it, not one single tiny thing, no matter how hard you try. You can’t change the movie, but you CAN stop watching it and do something else.

Your memories are just like a movie that plays in your head, over and over. You can’t change what actually happened, you can’t change the dialog, and you can’t change the outcome. You hate that “movie”, you hate that memory that makes you miserable, so why do you keep torturing yourself by replaying it over and over? You can’t change anything about what happened in the past, but a memory is just a thought that’s happening NOW, and you CAN change what’s happening now, just by choosing to do something different, by choosing to think something different.

You can’t change what happened in the past; but you absolutely can change how you think about it, how you feel about it, and how you react to it; you just have to have faith that you can. You need to have faith in yourself, faith that if other people have found ways to let go of the past (and others have,) you can find ways that work for you as well. Faith that there is something different out there in the future, faith that you can make different choices, faith that you can find your way, and faith that when you slip back (and you will) you can catch yourself and start forward again.

from the Chakra Wisdom Oracle Cards

Changing how you think about something, how you feel about something, isn’t the easiest thing in the world to do. There will be times when you slip back towards that stuck place, when those memories start replaying, one more time. Instead of beating yourself up for it, use that replay . . . step back and look at it from a different angle. Instead of focusing on the painful parts, look for things to be grateful for. You won’t find many at first, but the more you look, the more you’ll see . . . At first, you may not be able to find anything except the fact that it’s over to be grateful for, but take a look at the good bits – those taught you something about what you’re looking for, what you want and need in your life. That’s something you can be grateful for – you know more about yourself and what you need, and that’s always a good thing. Now take a look at the bad parts – those taught you about what you don’t want, and that’s good information to have. They also taught you how to recognize the signs, and that’s even better information to have because it will help you avoid the same situation, IF you pay attention. Last, take an honest look at your own behavior and choices in the situation – is there anything you think you could have done differently? Is there anything you blame yourself for? This isn’t about beating yourself up, this is about knowing how you feel about what happened, about seeing how your own choices and behavior affected the outcome.

This is also not about playing the “blame game,” or getting trapped in the “shoulda, coulda, woulda,” cycle. Assigning blame only keeps you stuck, especially if you feel like you’re owed an apology, or some sort of “closure,” and you can’t let go until you get it . . . once again, that gives your power away; and gives someone else control of when, or IF, you can move on. “Shoulda, coulda, woulda,” is sneakier though. When you start thinking “I shoulda done ______,” or “I coulda done ______ instead of ______, and things woulda been different,” you’re missing something very, very important. You’re working from a place where you have an overview of what happened, a place where you have a hell of a lot more information about the situation than you did when you were making those decisions. You’re blaming yourself for not being able to see the future, for not using information that you didn’t have at that time in the decision making process.

And that leads to the last step in the process . . . forgiveness. Stop, don’t run off! I’m not talking about the kind of forgiveness people demand from you, where you not only forgive them for hurting you, but make it OKAY that they hurt you . . . That’s not forgiveness, that’s saying it’s okay for people to abuse you or treat you badly. That’s not even close to what I’m talking about – in fact, I’m not talking about forgiving someone else at all (that may or may not come later) – I’m talking about forgiving yourself. I’m talking about forgiving yourself for the mistakes you made, for not knowing things you couldn’t know until afterward, for all those things that you blame yourself for. You made the best decisions you could with the information you had available at the time, and beating yourself over the head with “I shoulda known better” won’t change that.

Being Enlightened Doesn’t Mean You Have to Be a Doormat

original at https://www.flickr.com/photos/toaireisdivine/14103783853/in/photostream/
Photographer Lulu Hoeller

“Judgement says everything about the one doing the judging and nothing about what is being judged.” – RJ Spina

I’ve been hanging out in a lot of groups that are focused around spirituality and personal growth lately; and I’ve been noticing something that feels very uncomfortable to me. I’ve seen several posts where people have mentioned setting boundaries or blocking people who are being abusive towards them; and in the comments there will be criticism about “that’s divisive” or “that’s separation, not coming together.” Even worse are the ones who say things like “you’re being selfish,” or “that’s not very loving (compassionate.)”

There seems to be a big misunderstanding in parts of the community about what our responsibilities are. I get the sense that a lot of people are thinking that because spiritual people are supposed to love unconditionally and be compassionate toward all living beings, they shouldn’t protect themselves from being taken advantage of or remove themselves from situations where they are being emotionally or verbally abused because that’s not being loving or compassionate to the other person.

The first thing that bothers me about these kinds of comments is simply that these folks have the chutzpah to think they actually have a right to criticize someone else’s personal choices in the first place. How is it expressing compassion or unconditional love by telling someone their personal choices (which, by the way, aren’t anyone else’s  business;) are “wrong,” “selfish,” “divisive,” or lacking in compassion? Why on earth would someone think it’s necessary (or even reasonable) to allow yourself to be mistreated, bullied, or abused to qualify as a compassionate person? What would make anyone think they knew more about what the best response to a situation is than the person involved in the situation?

Now before you go all Rambo on me and tell me that I’m doing the same thing I’m complaining about, pay attention. The situation is totally different . . . I’m not telling someone to their face that they are wrong, or criticizing their behavior the way that folks commenting on a post are. I haven’t called out a single individual, there’s no identifiable personal information; and, in fact, I’m not talking about any particular person but about something I’ve seen in multiple places, done by many different people. As much as I hate to admit it, I’ve done it myself in the past (and I’ve had it done to me.) I hope I’ve grown past the idea that I have any right to tell someone else they’re wrong (unless, of course, they are trying to interfere with my free will.) I hope that I’ve matured enough to let go of the idea that criticizing someone else’s personal choices is acceptable behavior, or that it’s any of my business when it doesn’t affect me or harm anyone except them.

Something all of us need to remember is that being a “good” person doesn’t mean you have to be a doormat, or let anyone walk all over you. Being a good person, raising your vibration, becoming enlightened, or ascending – no matter what you call it, it does not mean you have to give up your right to be treated well, or your right to set boundaries and walk away from unhealthy or abusive relationships. It doesn’t mean you can’t defend yourself from being attacked, whether that attack is physical or verbal; and it doesn’t mean you have to allow yourself to be criticized for your personal choices and ethics. The unconditional love and compassion that is talked about so much isn’t something that you only give to others, it is something that needs to be given to yourself as well, and that means taking care of yourself.

What’s even MORE important to remember though, is that being enlightened, or a lightworker, or whatever doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else. It doesn’t mean that your personal ethics, your personal choices, or your opinions are the only “right” ones; and it doesn’t give you the right to tell anyone else that they are wrong, or unethical. It doesn’t give you the right to make rules for other people, or decide what’s “right” for them.

We are each unique individuals, with our own unique paths. I don’t know what your path is, or what your guides have told you; and you don’t know what my path is, or what my guides have told me. What your guides tell you is ONLY for you, it doesn’t apply to anyone else; and you have no right to expect someone else to follow your personal guidance, or to tell them that they’re not doing the right thing.

Does Science Support Psychic Phenomena?

By Timm Weitkamp (Own work) via Wikimedia Commons

Quantum Physics & the Paranormal

A few weeks ago I woke up to a question in my FB messenger. I’d mentioned in passing during another discussion that quantum physics provides scientific support for “paranormal” experiences, and my friend wanted to know more about it. (Notice I said “support,” NOT “proof.” As studies continue, the results could develop into proof, or they could cause the support to evaporate.) This post is a bit of an expansion on my answer to that question, which was, “What do you know about quantum physics and it’s relationship to paranormal? You mentioned it briefly at some point. Early in the last century there was talk of a space called Ether. Any connection?”

Ether (or aether) is a controversial subject in scientific circles. Most scientists dogmatically insist that it doesn’t exist, although some of the brightest minds at the end of the 19th and beginning of the 20th centuries had theories of it, and there is a new theory of aether that a pair of scientists were working on within the last 20 years. Einstein waffled back and forth a bit before deciding it didn’t exist, but Nikola Tesla developed a theory of aether that supported, and was supported by, his other work. There isn’t a lot of information available on Tesla’s work, since most of it has been classified by the government, but there are some interesting parallels between what is known of his theory and recent discoveries in the field of quantum electrodynamics. There are some recent accelerator experiments that suggest there is a deeper level of reality where normal particles act oddly. Ether has never actually been conclusively disproven or refuted, it’s just been suppressed by the scientific establishment. I’m not sure how it fits in, or even if it does, but it’s an interesting idea.

Scientists have always used Newtonian physics to “debunk” psychic abilities and anything that can’t be measured (like ether); but quantum physics shows that all energy, and all consciousness, is “entangled.” It shows that two photons that have been paired continue to influence each other, no matter how much they’re separated, and the “double slit experiment” has proved that observing an experiment can change the result. (Which was obviously already known, at least in some way, or scientists wouldn’t insist on double-blind studies of new medications.)

The reasoning that is used to justify the need for the double-blind setup is that if anyone knows who is getting the medication and who is getting the placebo their expectation could cause the placebo effect to kick in and skew the results. But that’s just more quantum physics . . . the placebo effect is simply human consciousness affecting the results of the experiment, which Newtonian physics says isn’t possible. If Newtonian physicists and organic chemists were correct in their “belief” that bodies are machines, and if you add the right chemical in the right amount it will have the same effect in every body, there would be no placebo effect.

But there IS a placebo effect (and a nocebo effect.) It doesn’t matter whether people in a double-blind study are getting the actual medication or not; some people get side effects and some people don’t; some people improve, and some don’t. If Newtonian physics/ bio-chemistry were correct, every person WOULD have the same reaction, but they don’t. If Newtonian physics/bio-chemistry was correct, ONLY people receiving the actual medication would have a response, but that’s not the way it works.

Quantum physics helps to explain that – it helps to explain why people getting a placebo pill frequently get the same side effects as those taking the actual medication, and why some of them improve. It also helps to explain spontaneous remissions, where people with untreatable cancers suddenly have the cancer totally disappear for no reason; and why people who have been diagnosed with cancer die, only to have the autopsy show no sign of cancer anywhere in their bodies.

Quantum physics also helps to explain why twins on opposite sides of the country can tell when something is wrong with the other, and it helps to explain how a mother (or father) “just knows” when something is wrong with their child.

Einstein called it “spooky effects at a distance”

That’s probably as close as we can get to an explanation when we’re trying to understand quantum effects with a 3 dimensional brain. Science has never been able to explain how thinking about someone can result in the phone ringing and them being on the other end minutes later; or how you can know who is calling before you answer the call. “Quantum entanglement” CAN explain that.

We are all entangled with each other, but the closer we are – the more love there is between us, the more time we spend together – the more entangled we are with that particular energy, and the more likely we are to “just know” when something happens no matter how far apart we are. (It actually kind of works the same way with those we can’t stand as well, if they’re people we’ve spent a lot of time with; like abusive step-parents or exes.)

Quantum entanglement also explains why some people can “feel” the presence of loved ones who have transitioned. Energy can’t be created or destroyed, and the energy of the people we love doesn’t end just because it’s no longer contained within a physical body – we can still “recognize” it if we are paying attention.

I didn’t find out that my stepdad had died for months, but I “knew” way before that – I could “feel” it. That’s why I went out looking for the information

Quantum physics explains why “dowsing” works, how people can use a pendulum to answer questions, how a tarot reader “connects” to the person they’re reading for and can be so accurate even when they’ve never met that person.

It also explains why there are certain people who just give you a “creepy” feeling even when you’ve never met them before, people that you don’t like from the second you meet them; and why there are some people you feel an immediate connection with, people you “recognize” from across the room or across the country or across the world even though you’ve never met. We all have “history” with each other, even when we don’t know it in this body, this life.

That answer is so limited compared to the “sense” of it, the “feeling.” When we leave our current bodies, we leave a piece of our soul, our energy, attached to every person in our lives that has inspired strong emotion. Over centuries, millenia, we become connected to all those individual energies.

[Question/Comment: I have some feelings about negative and positive thinking effecting the degree of connection between what for the lack of a better word, spirits, both living and transitioned. Maybe the experience to expectations ratio.]

Yes, exactly. If you don’t believe that it’s possible to have that experience, you can’t, no matter how much you may want to. The connection is THERE, but if you don’t expect to be connected, you can’t “see” it. If you expect to still be connected, you can access that connection.

If you think that death is “the end” of that person, how could you possibly connect to them after the physical body is gone? How could you recognize it when they try to reach out to you? The observer affects the results, or, as Henry Ford said, “whether you believe you can, or believe you can’t, you’re right.”

[Question/comment: If I understand what you said it is that the state of existence is graded by the approach. Such as front view vs side view. You get more of what you “hope for” than if you accept passive results.]

More that you get what you “expect.” So if your past experience with relationships has caused you to expect a loving, supportive relationship, that’s what your end up with. (And here, I’m not talking about your conscious expectations, but the subconscious “programming” you’ve acquired through observation and experience.) If you expect to be neglected and ignored, you get that. You gravitate to the people and experiences that fulfill those expectations – or they gravitate to you.

And words have power. They tell the universe what you expect. The words you use, whether it’s out loud, or in your mind, tell the universe what to send you. So if you run around telling people that every time things are going well in your life, something blows up in your face . . .

Guess what happens next




https://www.engadget.com/2015/03/30/spooky-experiment-proves-quantum-entanglement-is-real/ (quantum entanglement, non-locality)